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Hey newly-marrieds, send me your wedding details

I want to see your details, those quirkly little items that made your day all your own. The hand-painted signs, your sweet invitation suite, the original card boxes, tablesettings, etc.

If you want to see them featured on engageology, send them to engageology {@} gmail.com with your contact information and your photographer’s information (for proper credit).

I look forward to seeing them!

All photos by Laura Ivanova

This Guestlist is Out of Control!

We just sent our guest list to our calligrapher (thanks Mom!) to have our invitation envelopes hand addressed in beautiful script.

Of course we had a *slight* disagreement over the etiquette of “and guest” before sending the list. I stick closely to etiquette rules that recommend — “If you allow one invited single guest to bring a guest, you must do the same for all other non-married guests.” R is operating under a different rule — in that it’s a “case-by-case basis.” For example, people with serious relationships can bring a guest, those who are not in serious relationships cannot.

Hmm, I think pretty highly of myself, but I would never consider being able to look at a relationship and deem one “serious” while another is “not serious.”

So, in the end, we ended up allowing the “and guests” because he felt that some people would be upset if they weren’t able to bring a guest, even though our guest list jumped by 40 by allowing them. Sigh.

The budget trimmer (me) has to find a way to fit another 40 people because the budget controler (R) wanted to include them. I’m not angry, just… excited at the prospect of fitting 178 guest onto a guest list and budget that was altered to fit 120. Of course it’ll work. But I’m not promising that our reception won’t run out of food 🙂

I Must Be Crazy

Wedding planning can be tough stuff. I’m in the thick of it, 6 months and 13 days out, and I couldn’t be more excited. I still have to decide pretty much EVERYTHING, except the location. The GTB and I decided to scrap our venue and move our reception to the backyard. Of our new house. That we moved into 3 days ago.

This “new house” was actually built in 1958 and needs word. A LOT of work. We’ve found a contractor and an architect, and we’re planning a MAY-JAH remodel (we’re talking walls torn down, exterior of house pushed out a few feet, new hardwood flooring to replace carpeting, custom cabinets, new lighting, electrical, plumbing, doors, security system, the works.

So, I’m wondering, WHAT THE !&#% AM I DOING?!

Am I seriously planning a wedding reception in this backyard, of this house that we moved into 3 days ago? With a remodel project that won’t start until mid December, at the soonest?!

Oh, and on top of that, we have a bunch of light fixtures to replace, a bathroom, mudroom and entryway to TILE OURSELVES, and a bunch of rooms that need to be scraped of their awful wallpaper and painted.

I think I’m starting the beginning of a 200 day anxiety attack 🙂

Does anybody have recommendations or words of encouragement?!

Something Old and Blue

I’ve been… lightly thinking about the whole “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue” thing and toying with ideas of how to make it work.

I still have NO idea what my ‘something borrowed’ will be. Maybe my grandma has a brooch I can wear… but I’m not banking on that. I’ll have to start bugging friends and family soon. A pair of diamond earrings or even a hanky would help!

I have, however, figured out a brilliant “something old, something blue,” (though I am certainly not the first bride to think of this combo!).

take your darling wedding shoes, add a pair of VINTAGE BLUE clip on earrings. Voila. Here’s a cute combo I saw online.


(no, I don’t plan to wear my shoes in 2 different colors, that’s just the image I found 🙂

Images sources: My Glass Slipper and Jackson Jewels

Truly Unique Guestbook Idea

I found this idea via A Practical Wedding, and as a writer/editor, I just may HAVE to use it (with a ribbon board, of course!).

Emmy & Kirk had a DIY-heavy wedding with a few of their closest and most dear friends and relatives (something we’re also hoping to achieve).

And, in leiu of the traditional guest book or signed photo frame, they hauled a typewriter to the reception site. And left sheets of paper around for the guests to hand-type their own message of well wishes to the bride and groom.

What an absolutely lovely idea!

Getting Back On Track

How is it SO easy for me to sway from what I really want?

In my wedding planning, I’ve run into people who have made it clear that I’m doing things wrong.
No bridesmaids? bad idea
Wedding outside of a church? why!?
Cutting costs on flowers? you’ll regret it
Spending more on photographer? what a waste

Now, I’ve found myself shaping MY day (and spending our money) on a day that has become some monstrosity that fits someone else’s ideal — not mine.

When I think of a day with 200 people around me, most of whom I won’t even have a chance to talk to, I feel…. sad.

When I think of a day where I’ve invited people to make OTHER people happy — not myself, I feel… disappointed in myself.

Is anyone else feeling this way about their wedding planning?

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