The Great Favor Debate

Who knew that such a minor detail would be such a debatable topic? From the beginning, I was adamant that I didn’t want favors.

Why? People don’t appreciate them, they leave them behind, it’s hard to give something that’s personal and appreciated for under $3, they’re an unneccessary expense, people just throw them away when they get home, etc, etc, etc.

Both of our mothers have been BIG advocates for “the favors” — my mom, after being told about 15 times that we will not have them, keeps emailing me ideas. Oooh, seed paper, mini-trees that guests can plant, personalized candy bars, photo frames, etc. His mother really liked the frames that his cousin used, and is “recommending” we do something like that.

And I just kept telling them, “nope, sorry, no favors.”

Then, I saw this image in Martha Stewart Weddings — and I waffled.


I’ve waffled a lot in these wedding decisions, but seriously, I was AMAZED that a photo could change my mind. I purchased 100 small green boxes and hatched a plan. Now that our guest list has grown (by 60%), I need to track down another 50+ of these boxes (thinking brown would be fine too).

And what will be inside?

Delicious madeleine cookies — some drizzled with chocolate, some plain, all handmade by… the bride. What have I gotten myself into?

And worse, why am I now contemplating an ADDITIONAL cookie and candy bar? What a slippery slope!


3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. melanie
    Feb 11, 2009 @ 10:19:03

    I solved my ‘to favor/ not to favor’ debate by telling people the candy bar will be the favor! Use the cute little boxes you ordered to let people scoop their favorites candies to go – and there’s your favor! : ) The tier of boxes would look really sweet next to jars and bowls of candy.


  2. Joe Federer
    Feb 11, 2009 @ 12:52:49

    HAhaa… sounds like my wedding. We settled on filling little boxes with hot chocolate mix (in a little baggie inside) … called it ‘snowman soup’ (which worked with our theme of snowmen) …


  3. Sarah
    Feb 16, 2009 @ 16:18:10

    Totally agree with Melanie. I went to a wedding that did this and it was a huge hit.
    I’m donating to the ASPCA and having small cards at each spot saying that a small donation has been made for each guest.


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